How to beat the stress of caring for a loved one
Q: I feel like I am cracking under the pressure of caring for my elderly mother. I’ve given up my life and feel resentful. I need help.
A: Taking care of an elderly parent is almost like being super human, but at times your cloak will crack and when it does, it is more than OK to ask for help – it is essential.
Reach out to your family, friends and community support systems and get the help you so deserve. Once you get support in place to help you through this crisis, think about keeping the support on a scheduled basis through adult care, respite care, support groups, family, friends and community resources to help you deal with the day-to-day pressure.
It is normal to feel resentful about your situation and do NOT feel bad for feeling this way. The first step is recognizing you need help and your second step is implementing the support systems. Take care of you!
Deanna Lueckenotte (www.alzhheimersdaysgoneby.com)
At some stage it is probably inevitable that you will need to engage the services of a professional caregiver, either full time or periodically, to give you support and free up some of your time to allow you to take a breather and gain some semblance of a normal routine. It is critical that you screen the caregiver service carefully to ensure that they have an established track record and that they are more than labour brokers. Ideally the service should include the oversight of qualified health care practitioners.